Domina Amanda – life outside the femdom BDSM dungeon
July 3, 2008
During the years that Domina Amanda worked as a professional dominatrix in NYC, she lived primarily in Manhattan, having her own apartment separate from the femdom dungeon she owned, and any other BDSM establishments she may have graced with her presence. While very open and blunt about her sexual life and femdom experiences, she naturally retains a high degree of privacy when it comes to personal information regarding family, friends, slaves and home. This is extended not only to her private relationships, but also her professional activities when it comes to the identities of her slave clients (excepting in cases where the slave begs for public femdom displays, and exposure or threat of exposure).
Working mostly by night in the femdom BDSM scene, she also attended a local university, taking classes there in pursuit of a degree in Biochemistry. While the choice of major may seem surprising to those of ignorant assumptions, Domina Amanda is known to be extremely intelligent and very well read – two characteristics which clearly fit her naturally dominant personality. Philosophy, Politics and Dietetics are other subjects she has studied extensively and continues to examine. Obviously also, she possesses a wealth of knowledge regarding topics such as femdom BDSM, sexual domination, and more importantly, the dynamics of dominant and submissive personalities beyond just sexual situations.
Her primary hobbies mirror her professional femdom life, as obviously does her sexuality. Her life as a dominatrix blends her interests and responsibilities perfectly, allowing her to enjoy what she most loves to do, while also providing a fitting and lucrative occupation. Even when not working as a professional dominatrix, her livelihood has almost always involved BDSM and female domination in some clear way, so she has continually been fortunate enough to blend business with what is most pleasurable to her. Personal slave ownership is something she has practiced since her teenage years, with her usually possessing multiple slaves. Since her late teens she has continuously held property, acquiring, dismissing, trading and selling as has pleased her.
Domina Amanda doesn’t watch much television, and only occasionally has time enough for movies. Her sex life occupies most of her time and she enjoys it thoroughly. As she has said in past interviews – “I don’t dream about what I wish my life could be… I simply do whatever it is that comes to my mind. My fantasies I make reality, and where there are limits I have to respect, I push as close to the edge as I can. I have no need to entertain myself by watching the lives of others, my own life is far more exciting than anything on television ~laughs~.” Those fantasies that are too extreme or unrealistic for her to enjoy fully in real life, she finds other outlets for (one example can be found in the giantess stories she has written – “Giantess, The Huntress”, which while being obvious femdom fantasy, can still be explored through writing and phone domination).
While working primarily out of her own private femdom dungeon, and still occasionally at that of her dominatrix friend’s (you can read more about how they met here - Tease and Denial, Goddess), Domina Amanda also made numerous guest appearances at local and regional area professional BDSM houses. She did the same on the West Coast, particularly in conjunction with special femdom events, fetish parties and BDSM festivals she was scheduled to attend. Some of the contacts she made while in California have subsequently led to other BDSM orientated business ventures she continues to be involved with today (which eventually led to her move from NYC).
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Domina Amanda – cruel femdom BDSM desires
June 24, 2008
And so with the support of the dominatrix friend she had long worked for, Domina Amanda set out to open her own femdom dungeon in NYC. A BDSM house that she would preside over, served by her personal slaves, and worshipped by those seeking the blessing of an audience.
It was here, in this new dungeon, that the “demoness” which had long been acknowledged within Domina Amanda, had the opportunity to design a femdom BDSM atmosphere that fit her dark desires and cruel tastes. Never intended as anything more than her personal domain, the dungeon wasn’t created with commercial BDSM concerns in mind, but rather to indulge her love of female domination in the form of her own kind of sadistic perversion.
Stories told of this place hint at a shadowy enclosure, presenting a series of rooms each more ominous than the last. Chambers dedicated to specific fetishes within the realm of BDSM – a pink room for sissy boys to experience the feminization they longed for, a vault for extreme forms of bondage and captivity, a cold metal and glass cell for cruel femdom interrogation and deep probing medical exams. Also, a small box set into one wall. Soundproofed, encased in metal and wood, and of a size barely able to hold a man – an oubliette that a slave could be sealed in, with the door locking into the wall so seamlessly that an outsider would not even know it was there. “A place to be forgotten,” the slave literally left sealed into the wall for as long as the dark dominatrix desired.
The final compartment was the largest, designed in compliment to her love of long, single tail whips. Rectangular in shape, with the windows heavily covered, the walls of this last room were lined with an assortment of hand crafted whips and other similar creations and instruments, almost all of the leather that she prefers. At one end of the room, a St. Andrew’s Cross. At the other, a wood and leather horse. And in the center of the room, a set of chains hanging from a support beam suitable for suspension. It is here that she is said to have spent most of her time in femdom session. Some say that at times she even slept here amongst her beloved whips.
As a dominatrix, her tastes in BDSM are known to be many and varied, but all focused on the dominant role which is her absolute. The whip is a beloved specialty of hers, and her talents with this instrument were often featured at femdom parties and fetish appearances. This personal femdom dungeon, served well as a place for her to further hone and develop her natural skill with this instrument of cruel pleasure. It also took her to another level in professional female domination, while obviously furthering her exploration of her own personality and sexuality.
(Domina Amanda has also written a femdom fantasy detailing a more extreme, nightmare realm she dreams of ruling over – BDSM Stories.)
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Domina Amanda – cruel femdom of her own dark design
June 17, 2008
As I mentioned in my previous post, Domina Amanda worked for almost three years in the private NYC femdom dungeon of her dominatrix friend, first as an apprentice, but quickly as an accomplished and respected dominatrix in her own right. While she very much enjoyed her time there, and was extremely close to her friend and employer on both a professional and personal level, after so long a time in one place, she decided to set out on her own.
With the blessing and backing of her friend, she decided to open her own, small private dungeon, dedicated to her further exploration of femdom BDSM. Not a large house, or even a private dungeon like the one she had previously worked for, which though not as large as the more public facilities, still had a regular dominatrix staff (of about half a dozen in this case), but instead a smaller place that would cater only to her whim, with her the single dominatrix presiding over the entire dungeon. The only others there would be three personal slaves, one female and two male, that she owned at the time.
(What I have been told of these three slaves – One was a sissy maid. Domina Amanda has a preference for well trained sissy maids and the specific duties they are suited for. Over the years she has constantly kept at least one in her service. The next was a very well built bisexual male sex slave that served a variety of purposes within the dungeon, including that of a bodyguard. He also lived there. The last was a female sex slave that was a pet to Domina Amanda at the time. She was the personal slave companion of the dominatrix and often assisted her in femdom sessions. She was also extremely devoted to the fetish of ass worship and eagerly displayed her respect for her owner through it.)
Often when such a transition occurs in the professional BDSM community, they are the result of a conflict arising between dominant personalities, with the ensuing struggle leading either to dismissal, or a fracturing within the femdom dungeon, with a portion going off to found their own. From what has been said by Domina Amanda, there was no falling out or breakup between the dominatrix pair, and they are still close now, with their friendship and attraction to one another remaining essentially unchanged (her dominatrix friend is a lesbian, though female domination is something she enjoys with both sexes). Domina Amanda simply wished to have her own femdom dungeon, a place that would be a reflection of her personality and ideas, and her friend not only understood this, but encouraged it. Besides also, dominant personalities, by their nature, have a want to build and rule their own homes.
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Domina Amanda – lifestyle and professional dominatrix
June 12, 2008
Domina Amanda continued to work for almost three years in her dominatrix friend’s private femdom dungeon in NYC. It was, and continues to be, an exclusive house, open only to a select clientele of great means and manners. Intended only for those most seriously devoted to femdom BDSM, the quality of the establishment is easily reflected in both its denizens and décor, besides most obviously, the exceptional ladies who staff it to this day.
During these years, Domina Amanda not only worked as a primary member of the small staff at this femdom house, but she was also very involved in the local BDSM scene. The exact number of different slaves she was involved with outside of her professional dominatrix activities, is unknown. She has spoken of numerous different slaves she has held personally in the past, both male and female. Some that she kept for a time before giving away or “selling”, and others she simply trained for her own amusement or enjoyed for the moment. There is no telling how many she has rejected.
Domina Amanda has also trained a number of “switches” seeking to learn more of the technical side of sexual domination and BDSM. In these cases she has usually required they submit to her fully as slaves before she would teach them anything. Her reason for doing this isn’t any belief in the idea that before one can be a “dominant” they must be a slave – as a true dominant herself she finds that concept to be both ridiculous and offensive. She simply treats those who play at BDSM differently from those more lifestyle orientated, and enjoys giving them a true introduction to the subject of female domination, not just the sexual side of femdom BDSM that they are more used to.
She has also found that most of those claiming to be “switches” who are willing to commit to this level, in reality have always been searching for slavery, with the idea of “switch” only being a sort of security blanket, and their request for training really being more of a cloaked desire to submit to female domination in the first place. On more than one occasion she has introduced a “switch” to the truer slavery that they were really seeking all along, leading that person to a new place in life through a deeper exposure to femdom.
While Domina Amanda sees a clear line of difference between the “true dominant personality” (she has written extensively on this subject in her Femdom Diary), and sexual domination or BDSM role-playing, she doesn’t object to the latter so long as those participating are honest with themselves and keep proper perspective regarding the difference between being truly dominant (born to it), and playing the role of dominant with flogger in hand.
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It was at this time – in her late teen years when she was getting more active in BDSM and going out more frequently to BDSM clubs – that Domina Amanda became close friends with a professional dominatrix who was working out of her own private femdom dungeon in Manhattan. Acquaintance grew quickly into friendship as the two began spending more time with one another, both publicly in the NYC femdom scene, and privately. Domina Amanda has stated their relationship was in part sexual, but that no roles of domination and submission were drawn between them, though they did at times include one or more submissive partners. Respect was something the two had for one another right away, but they were never girlfriends – the lesbian sex they had was simply them enjoying their friendship in another way (Domina Amanda was also involved with multiple male and female sex slaves then, much the same as she is now).
While truly dominant women can at times come into conflict (strong personalities have a tendency to eventually clash), these two fit well together, and only became closer for their shared views. So much so that an apprenticeship at her femdom dungeon was offered to Domina Amanda by her more experienced dominatrix companion (her age seems to be between five and ten years older than that of Domina Amanda), which was accepted.
The two stayed together for well over two years after that, Domina Amanda working in her mentor’s femdom dungeon as an apprentice and then full dominatrix, building her own substantial following in the process (Domina has already told some femdom stories about this time period on her website). Female domination and male submission (along with that of submissive lesbian and bisexual females), is and has always been something Domina Amanda has taken for granted, carrying herself in a way that clearly reflects this. Having been given the right outlet and connections within the NYC BDSM community, her natural tendencies had the freedom to grow, and fully explore the fetish possibilities femdom offers.
Her presence in the local BDSM community grew greatly during these years, though in keeping with her personality, she was far less flamboyant than is typical of a dominatrix who gains a great degree of notoriety quickly. This, if anything, only solidified the respect she was held in, and opened more doors to her since the quiet confidence (if at times accented by a cocky, sarcastic attitude) and solid self-assurance she epitomizes, is something appreciated by most true dominants.
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Even during her earliest sexual experiences with other girls, BDSM played a part in Domina Amanda’s sexuality. For just over ten years now, she has been interested and involved in various forms of femdom BDSM. Starting with simple things – first lesbian sex with her taking the dominant role, then the inclusion of degrees of clear female domination and bondage, on to more sadistic forms of femdom play when she began experimenting with boys – this interest grew from something she enjoyed with partners who shared her tastes (and often ones introduced to them by her)… to active participation in the NYC BDSM community by her late teens.
From the start she embraced the dominant role in her sex life, taking control of her partners in the bedroom or demanding their deference to her will before engaging in any sexual acts. Seen more as fun play when her sexuality first began to awaken, she didn’t hesitate to embrace the inclinations she had, both in terms of her bisexuality, and her enjoyment of femdom style sexual activities. Experimentation, lack of inhibition, a perversely creative mind and growing exposure to BDSM quickly fed her impulses and opened doors to their further exploration.
Domina Amanda says that at first this (female domination) was nothing she thought out, but just something she did, something that felt right and ran its own course (both in a sexual sense and in how she behaved in general towards other people at all times). She never thought twice about her behavior, deciding that if it felt right to her, then it was right for her, and that only her opinion on the matter was important.
Later when she was first with boys, her understanding of her sexual inclinations grew even more – in terms of true BDSM play and femdom structures. Her interest in them at first was more curiosity, and her sense of female superiority had already shown itself in how she had treated them throughout the years of her early education (she admits to being something of a bully). When experimenting with them sexually, she set demands on those she chose to enjoy which they had to obey if they wanted to be with her – her then using then to whatever degree she wanted, if at all. Bondage was something she required of girls before, but it was here, with boys, that she really began to develop and refine her interest in femdom and associated sexual acts collected under BDSM, particularly sadism.
By her late teens Domina Amanda had started going to BDSM clubs and began participating in femdom scenes both publicly and privately. Her own exhibitionist tendencies lead to many displays of public femdom performances at this time, which brought her the attention of some more serious people in the local BDSM community, including some within the lesbian dominatrix circle. Invitations to private female domination parties followed, along with relationships with more serious submissives of both sexes, sometimes multiple male and female slaves held in bondage and chastity at the same time by her personally.
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Now that the opening blog post is done with, I thought I’d continue this male slave offering by saying a little about the lovely young lady this is dedicated to. Most of what I write here (and in the next few posts) can be read in much greater detail on her own blog – Femdom Diary of Domina Amanda, but I’ll try provide a summary here, including little bits of additional information I know to be true (nothing on this site is written without her permission and approval – I will not post rumor).
Domina Amanda is a 25 year old bisexual dominatrix originally from Manhattan, New York who is currently living just outside San Francisco. She is deeply involved in BDSM on both a professional and personal level, meaning that while she has worked as a professional dominatrix conducting femdom sessions with select male slave clients, this subject is also a central part of her private life. For her, female domination isn’t a role taken, but a lifestyle, with BDSM simply being one way for her to enjoy who she is. Confident, intelligent and confrontational, she is a true dominant personality and a clear example of female superiority in its most undeniable and desirable form.
As you can see by her picture she is very beautiful, but she is also very tall for a woman – 5′ 10″ barefoot. She has long, solid black hair that is thick and perfectly straight. Her body is thin and firm, graceful and athletic – she loves to dance both for fun and exercise, and has trained for many years in a variety of styles.
Her wardrobe displays her partiality for femdom fetish clothing and styles influenced by this form – corsets, tight dresses, large belts, leather & latex, skirts, stockings, high heels, gloves and boots are only a hint of the temptation to be found. This isn’t her dominatrix collection, or what she wears strictly for femdom sessions or BDSM events. Domina Amanda’s daily dress reflects her personality both inside and outside of the dungeon. Like I said, female domination and superiority are who this woman is.
Her eyes are hazel and piercing, seductive but with an intimidating effect, which when taken with her personality and femdom sexual desires, are part of why friends call her “the Demoness” or “Dark Seductress”.
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