Feminization, Sissies, etc., What’s the “Why”?

I started writing my last post with the intention of talking about some of the sissy audio clips Domina Amanda has done, and then some of my own thoughts about feminization, sissies, fetish behavior relating to it. Or actually, not so much thoughts as questions.

That post turned into an epic, so I moved my rambling over here to a new entry.

Let me state first that everything I’ve written here is me, not me repeating anything Domina Amanda has said. This doesn’t really have anything to do with her. These are only my thoughts.

I’m not into feminization myself, and I’m not saying that to hide a closet attraction. I’m not making fun of the whole sissy boy thing either, but it does seem strange to me. I’m not planning to ridicule it or question its validity at all all, I’m really just wondering about it and those into it.

What makes them interested in this. I know for some its to do with nature, while others a sexual fetish, and perhaps for some it’s a mix of both. I don’t think my thoughts and questions are so much towards the general transgender crowd, I’ll try to explain what I’m thinking.

I suppose I can see why some guys are into dressing like women. Some might be gay or bisexual, others might have a shemale fantasy where they are sorta both (I think the correct word is transgender or transvestite but I‘ve never seen shemale as offensive personally, not that my opinion matters since I‘m not one. Makes me think of those Brazilian shemales that look better than many girls do. Guess when you want something you don‘t take it for granted like some, and work harder at what you desire), while there are those too who are born male but feel much more in common and comfortable with being female (I think that with all the variations nature creates we can‘t say such tendencies are always “choice“. It stands to reason some people would be born this way, just like so many other possibilities). So it might not be the usual thing we are used to, but I can’t say it makes no sense, especially if it makes sense to those doing it.

And I know that not all sissies or cross dressers, or even shemales are homosexual. Many are straight in that while they dress or behave like women, they aren’t attracted to men (though I guess that would make them gay in a sense, just sorta lesbian in a way?). I know I’m probably not phrasing things right or the way its supposed to be said, but it’s a complex issue and I’m not overly familiar with it.

And these people aren’t all sissies. That‘s a separate group under the same general heading. There is a similarity in their appreciation of the female, but to lump all together would be confuse things.

I guess it’s not that cross dresser or transgender seems odd to me. Those who want to be the opposite sex in a way that reflects women in the common way we see them every day. Like dressing and behaving as women really do. That makes sense in a way, because its something we see, and would fit the idea of someone who feels they are of that sex and what that sex really is.

It’s more the extreme or overblown version that is femme but not really female as we usually see it. Like I said I’m not seeking to make fun of it, more wondering what’s the attraction and where does it come from. I mean it’s not even really female its something female-like, so where does the attraction and idea come from.

Like the sissy little girl style thing. Grown men dressing up not so much like women but some kinda caricature of women where they are way overly femme and prissy, or even somewhat childlike in costume form. What is the “why” behind that. Like what’s the turn on and fascination, because I know that those who love this fetish really get into it deeply.

And there is such a range to what all of these people like. Sissy behavior being the common link, but some want it to be forced feminization mixed even with forced bisexual acts and sexual humiliation. While others don’t really get that much into sexual acts at all, being interested entirely with the dressing and behaving, with no intercourse. Just something done for themselves. It seems like it’s a very broad fetish.

And I wonder if the “forced” crowd really should be lumped in with the “choice” people. Like those into forced feminization, if its really the feminization that they are into or more the idea of humiliation, sexual domination and forced femdom activity.

While the ones who choose to be sissies, and get fully into all it entails by choice, if they are really the true “sissy” community, while the others are more BDSM.

I don’t know if there is internal conflict within the sissy community. I’m not trying to be funny, it’s just that within each general group there always seems to be factions that see things differently.

Like, is there conflict between that forced feminization group who seems to like it more femdom, sexual and even humiliating, and then those who are more lifestyle-ish? Do the lifestyle-ish people feel the BDSM types are a mockery of what they are in some way?

Like I keep saying, I’m not trying to insult anyone, so if my phrasing is off, don’t read it that way because that’s not how it’s meant. I’m into things people call “sick” so I’m not gonna start throwing stones at anyone (like femdom cbt).

I know Domina Amanda has written things about both forced feminization and true sissy training, usually from a very sexual viewpoint as would fit a femdom blog. But when talking to actual people she naturally treats each as an individual, beyond just sexual domination and fetish play.

I know her move to San Francisco was partly motivated by a transgender friend she has and works with. She said something once about the only men she truly respects on a level anywhere close to her own are ones born in a man’s body, but with the soul of a female.

(I‘ve noticed also that the shemale references she has made have always been from the stance of domination and shemale dominatrix, like that shemale enforcer she wrote about in one of her BDSM stories. I think she likes their company and sharing slaves with them).

But when I’ve asked her things like this she tends to say the best people to ask are people who are this themselves. They deserve the respect of being allowed to explain how they feel, if they want to, without anyone outside trying to define or limit them, no matter what the intention. Just be open minded and remember that there are always people who will think what you are into is just as weird as what you might think they are.

She gets hostile around negativity towards this subject because I think she has a transsexual friend who was hurt in some way, but that‘s none of my business. It‘s just a guess off of reactions I‘ve seen her have to idiots in some chat rooms.

Well, anyway, that’s what I was thinking about today and I wrote it all off the top of my head as I am sure you can tell. I’ll probably have a bunch of people telling me what I’ve said isn’t “correct” but that’s fine. I’m not trying to define anything, just wondering so people saying constructive things isn’t a problem.

And the title to this post – In no way do I expect to find a single “why” out there, nor do I think there is one. People have all different reasons and personalities.

- maleslave

Sissy Fetish Audio Clips and Femdom Feminization Stories

Domina Amanda has written and recorded a bunch of  sissy audio samples for one of the girlie fetish forums. Some are forced feminization with femdom strapon sex, while others are sissy cross dressing, transformation, modeling, that kinda stuff. She’s written posts describing each one in her diary, and they’ve been collected here – sissy school - so click this link if you want to look and listen to them all.

I know Domina Amanda likes sissies very much (she‘s extremely open minded, as I suppose someone that deeply into female domination and BDSM would have to be). She currently has a sissy maid that lives near her and is often in her home. This is a practice she says she cannot do without, and no matter where she is living she always searches for a good sissy maid to oversee the domestic tasks in her home. She’s often said no dominatrix should be without at least one.

This most recent one is a Victorian style maid she’s had for I think more than a year now, and is so deeply along in feminization that Domina Amanda only refers to her in the feminine “she/her“. I know she speaks highly of the formal dinners her maid prepares and serves for special occasions. This one I think is bisexual, though I know he/she is kept in chastity most of the time.

One of Domina Amanda’s older audio clips can be found here -
Sissy Audio – Sweetie is a Pink Panty Tease Model

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT - I just wrote a new post with links to THREE MORE feminization recordings Domina Amanda has done.

These new clips are much more graphic than the one linked above, and as usual, Domina Amanda not only provides direct links to each audio but also writes more about the slut that inspired it.

You can find these 3 new clips through here – free sissy audio stories

A slut being trained as a whore… forced cock sucking… and a tight virgin boy pussy is popped… these new clips are really hot and totally free!

Domina Amanda – cruel femdom of her own dark design

As I mentioned in my previous post, Domina Amanda worked for almost three years in the private NYC femdom dungeon of her dominatrix friend, first as an apprentice, but quickly as an accomplished and respected dominatrix in her own right. While she very much enjoyed her time there, and was extremely close to her friend and employer on both a professional and personal level, after so long a time in one place, she decided to set out on her own.

With the blessing and backing of her friend, she decided to open her own, small private dungeon, dedicated to her further exploration of femdom BDSM. Not a large house, or even a private dungeon like the one she had previously worked for, which though not as large as the more public facilities, still had a regular dominatrix staff (of about half a dozen in this case), but instead a smaller place that would cater only to her whim, with her the single dominatrix presiding over the entire dungeon. The only others there would be three personal slaves, one female and two male, that she owned at the time.

(What I have been told of these three slaves – One was a sissy maid. Domina Amanda has a preference for well trained sissy maids and the specific duties they are suited for. Over the years she has constantly kept at least one in her service. The next was a very well built bisexual male sex slave that served a variety of purposes within the dungeon, including that of a bodyguard. He also lived there. The last was a female sex slave that was a pet to Domina Amanda at the time. She was the personal slave companion of the dominatrix and often assisted her in femdom sessions. She was also extremely devoted to the fetish of ass worship and eagerly displayed her respect for her owner through it.)

Often when such a transition occurs in the professional BDSM community, they are the result of a conflict arising between dominant personalities, with the ensuing struggle leading either to dismissal, or a fracturing within the femdom dungeon, with a portion going off to found their own. From what has been said by Domina Amanda, there was no falling out or breakup between the dominatrix pair, and they are still close now, with their friendship and attraction to one another remaining essentially unchanged (her dominatrix friend is a lesbian, though female domination is something she enjoys with both sexes). Domina Amanda simply wished to have her own femdom dungeon, a place that would be a reflection of her personality and ideas, and her friend not only understood this, but encouraged it. Besides also, dominant personalities, by their nature, have a want to build and rule their own homes.

- maleslave